Today is my 30th birthday.

Today I should be writing about the fabulous birthday cake I made myself, and the fun celebrations that took place to ring in my 30th year.

But I didn’t end up making myself a cake and the celebrations that were planned got cancelled.

I have hinted around that I have been very busy and preoccupied lately, but I didn’t want to mention too many details on the blog.  My brother said it best…that dad wouldn’t want us to.  The truth is, my father had surgery in September and has been having complications ever since.  His struggle ended on Friday when he went home to be with God. 

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So, instead, I’m dedicating today’s post to my daddy. A man that taught me so much about life.  That supported my brother and me in everything that we did.  A dedicated father and husband, a friend to so many.

Mom and Dad

He was always filled with joy and had an infectious laugh that I will miss hearing.  He had great stories and could make a lesson out of any situation.   He truly was a “gentle giant.”  At 6’3’’, he surly earned his nickname “Big Mike". I know my husband was shaking in his boots when he first met my dad, and my dad didn’t miss any chance to give him a hard time (jokingly, of course).  When Chris asked my dad if he could propose, my dad’s answer was a big H-E-double hockey sticks no! Chris didn’t know what to say, and my dad didn’t let him flounder long…just long enough to let him know that he had better take care of his little girl.

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He taught me how to play poker, how to fish, and what a bad idea it is to have credit card debt. How to cook, silly magic tricks, and what a good idea it is to pray and to talk to God and spend time with family.  I could count on him for anything. No matter what kind of crazy situation I had gotten myself into, he helped to get me out of it and made sure I learned my lesson in the process.

When we bought our house this summer, my dad made a point to tell me how proud he was of me, and how he knew my mom was proud of me, too.  It meant a lot to hear that, and to know he thought she would be proud, too.  Dad, I’m sorry you never got to see what our house has become but I hope that I keep making you and mom proud up heaven.  I love you and I miss you.  Always.

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6 comments to Today

  • Susan

    It is with much saddness that I see this post today. My heart is with you and your family as you grieve this great loss. Although I only had the pleasure of meeting your dad at your wedding, I have to say,you hit the nail on the head when you said he had an infectious laugh.He was quite a funny man that night , but even through the joking you could see how proud he was and how much he loved you. Becky , losing parents is difficult and there always seems to be a time when we want to share one of lifes milestones w/ them. Share them, speak them out loud and know that they are watching over you and all that you do . Listen , you will be able to hear their words in the gentle breezes , in the early morning hours when the sun is rising,and one day through the laughter of your children. The best thing you could do to honor their life is to live your life well and carry the lessons they shared w/ you. Wishing you peace and strength and remember to lean on those around you that love you. ~ Sue

  • donna johnston

    What a wonderful tribute to your dad—I too, will miss his kindness and infectious laugh…both of your parents were wonderful people and they raised a wonderful and strong daughter. John and I are so Blessed that you came into our lives and that Chris was smart enough to know when he had a good thing! Love you…..

  • Janelle

    Becky! What a great tribute to your dad. I know this just happened but I think the 30th anniversary to one of the happiest days in your father’s life was a perfect time to write this. I remember your fathers infectious laugh and can hear it in my head as you can. He was a wonderful man and you should be truly proud of the person he was and the person you became as a result of his teachings. I love you dearly.

  • Christine

    You have such a wonderful way with words, such a wonderful tribute to your father. You are such a wonderful person because of the great parents who raised you. We love you Becky! Happy 30th!

  • Meghan

    I cried the whole way through this. This was so beautifuly written, Becky. It’s an amazing tribute to Mr. A. We all love you and your family so much.

  • Thank you all for your sweet comments. I appreciate them, and the love and prayers you all have shown for my family.

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